Hi,
You're talking about removing one "iteration" (in general one line) from the repeatable grid, correct? I.e. using the dropdown, and selecting "Remove".
Assuming this is the case, you'd most likely have to change grid.xbl to do this. Right now fr-remove is dispatched, and the corresponding iteration just removed. Instead you'd want to show a dialog and upon confirmation do the removal action.
https://github.com/orbeon/orbeon-forms/blob/master/src/resources-packaged/xbl/orbeon/grid/grid.xblAlex
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