So you're talking of setting the selected value, right? I.e. as if the user selected it by clicking on the dropdown. You can make the value of the dropdown a calculated value, but then it would become read-only so users wouldn't be able to change it. However, within Form Builder, you can't set the value of a field when the value of another field changes; for this you would have to edit the form, and write that logic in XForms.
Alex
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